My gf called this evening. She was calling from a park while the guy that she was supposed to spend the evening with talked with people on the other side of the street.
Feeling a bit awkward, she reached out to me in order to have "something to do" rather than feeling as if she stuck out like a sore thumb.
She also shared that a good friend of hers was angry at her because she'd stood him up the night before when they were supposed to go out dancing. She'd done it to spend more time with the same guy that she was with today. The guy, whom she admits has not been treating her with any respect or consideration lately.
I told her that she has to make the choice to end his ill treatment of her--whether that is through refusing to see him or seeing him only when he is willing to treat her in a manner that makes her feel good.
She has been dealing with this guy sexually for several months. Early on in their interactions, they agreed that the relationship would not be able to develop into much more.
He is rude to her each time that she sees him. He has blatantly flaunted other women in front of her, taken her money but, she is having trouble breaking free of him. She fears boredom and ultimately, loneliness so she is willing to be mistreated for time and attention.
It is sad that such a beautiful, intelligent young person is wasting their time in a situation like this.
My situation has been no better. The only difference is that I am choosing to not subject myself to it at this time.
Why do we choose to hurt ourselves like this?
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